Who's Driving? Lessons from a dream, symbols about transportation & choices

I’ve likely mentioned in past posts that I’ve always been a lucid and vivid dreamer. For years, I’ve journaled about dreams that have guided me in ways that I can hardly put into words. These dreams have come as messages from my spirit guides, my higher self, and visitations from loved ones. Last night, I had a dream that woke me up with an undeniable urge to write it all down and share.

This dream, like many before it, featured the usual suspects of symbols that often appear on my journey: cars, the ocean, mountains, and even the sensation of salt on my skin. As anyone who journals their dreams might notice, there are recurring symbols—much like in my mediumship readings—each layered with meaning. For me, modes of transportation—cars, buses, boats, planes—serve as metaphors for life’s journey. They hold clues to how I’m navigating life at the moment. Locations also carry significance: near water, I know it’s about my emotions; in the mountains, it’s often about the challenges I’m facing.

Last night, I dreamed of two cars, both filled with luggage—none of it mine—representing the emotional baggage of others. I wasn’t driving either car but found myself along for the ride. The message felt clear: others are on their own journeys, and I need to let go of carrying what isn’t mine.

That realization got my brain spinning. What actual worries or challenges in my waking life am I carrying that aren’t mine? To some people, this might seem like a lot of effort to metaphorically unpack a dream. But as I mentioned earlier, my dreams have always been incredibly insightful. If I’m remembering small details from each scenario, there’s a reason for it. It’s worth sharing, and maybe those reading this can relate or gain insight into their dreams as well.

Dream Interpretation 101: Here’s how I interpreted some of the symbols in my dream:

Cars: For me, cars have always represented life’s journey, so it’s important to pay attention to the details: Who’s driving—you or someone else? Are you arriving at a destination? Is the car working properly, or are you lost and struggling to get there? These questions often remind us to take back the wheel in life if we’re just passengers, or to acknowledge challenges when we’re feeling stuck.

Luggage: This is a recurring visual in both my dreams and my psychic sessions. My spirit guides often use luggage to represent worries—either our own or those of others. I often ask clients, “Are you carrying someone else’s worries like rocks in your backpack?” Last night’s dream blended past and present energy, making me question how much of what I was carrying truly belonged to me.

The Mountains: I couldn’t help but think of the book The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest. For me, mountains symbolize challenges—those uphill climbs we often avoid or feel unprepared to face. They can feel isolating, just as I felt last night when trying to find my way home. But they also represent growth, resilience, and the strength to find solutions on your own.

The Ocean: Water often symbolizes our emotional state, and although the ocean appeared only briefly in my dream, it carried significant meaning. I was covered in salt that needed washing off—a sign of healing and cleansing. It felt like a reminder to release what doesn’t belong to me and embrace vulnerability—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

This dream reminded me that life is full of choices. Sometimes, we’re along for the ride in someone else’s car, carrying their baggage, and wondering why we feel stuck. Other times, we’re standing at a crossroads, unsure of how to get home. In these moments, the dream seems to say: trust yourself. Let go of what doesn’t belong to you, take the wheel, and embrace your unique path.

There’s no right or wrong way to navigate life, but we do need to honor our own journey. It’s okay to part ways with people, habits, or situations that no longer align with where we’re headed. And when the road gets tough, know that every challenge holds the potential for growth and clarity.

So, if you find yourself waking up with a vivid dream, don’t brush it off. Write it down, reflect on its symbols, and see what messages it holds for you. The answers might just guide you home.

The cost of fitting in & breaking old cycles

This morning, I found myself reflecting on a conversation I had the other day, where I tried to fit in by venting about a frustrating situation. In the moment, it felt easier to just let it all out—something we all do from time to time. But afterward, I couldn’t shake how I felt about my participation in the conversation. I didn’t like it. This wasn’t who I am.

While I understand that I’m human and deserving of grace, I also realized something profound: solutions often live in the world of acceptance. They emerge when we hit that internal pause button, especially when we find ourselves caught up in throwing more wood on the fire, instead of being the positive force of self-restraint, even in the smallest of moments.

Accepting a situation for what it is doesn’t mean giving up or ignoring your feelings. It means recognizing that some things are beyond our control and choosing how we respond to them. When we do that, we shift from reacting to reflecting, creating space for clarity and growth.

This moment reminded me that my self-awareness is truly a gift. Even when we stumble, each realization brings us closer to our best selves, and I’m so grateful for it. Growth doesn’t mean perfection—it means choosing to learn and move forward, one step at a time.

I got you. It's okay to ask for help and support.

In the past, I’ve always been quite stubborn when it comes to asking for help or support, but over time, that has shifted, and I’ve been able to realize that it’s not only okay to ask for help or support but it’s actually healthier for me. So often, we look at leaning on another as a sign of weakness, that we aren’t being independent, or we don’t want to feel like a burden, etc., when in reality, asking for support can lead to a better state of mental health and can help forge more meaningful and lasting connections with others.

But how do we know who is best for our overall well-being and ‘the right people? You know I’m going to say first and foremost, trust your intuition. Ask yourself, do I feel comfortable, understood, and supported by this person? Seek others who can empathize, come from a place of non-judgment, communicate effectively and respectfully. I am a huge advocate for professional guidance, therapy, and coaching mentors in addition to seeking support from friendships that have your best interest at heart.

So, when it comes to asking for support or help, don’t look at it as giving up or your last resort, see it as an incredible strength within that says, ‘I am actually refusing to give up, and I’m worth it.’

A good negotiator

I’m a very good negotiator in my head when it comes to making excuses for why I’m not doing something or feeling a certain way about myself. And, as much as I could and should be kinder to myself, I also feel like sometimes a little tough love can go a long way. Motivational speaker; Mel Robbins often quotes, “No one is coming to save you.” Well, that’s a large dose of OUCH. But, damn, it’s true. Taking responsibility for our present life and future life, changing the way we think, and shifting the feels to rid of negative thinking... it takes work!

But if there is one thing I’ve learned along the way, it’s in breaking things down into doable steps, celebrating every little win along the way, and sharing my victories with those who lift me and support me. So, remember, recognizing and changing your thought patterns, creating action is a process. It’s a journey that requires practice, and where practicing it is key.

12.12 | Stepping stones of self love: A Channeled Message from spirit

On this loveliest of new moons, you see the world. 

On this day, a breakthrough occurs within you. This is not to say that what has come forward is unrecognizable, but ‘familiar’ is a better word. You see the pieces within you that you have been longing to see—an awakening and beckoning for something more, not externally like a desire for things or relationships, but of oneself.

You are aware of your surroundings with a new set of eyes—eyes that gaze upon the self, nurturing a deeper love and understanding of who you are and will be. There is freshness, renewal, doves in flight, and patriarchal simplicity in viewpoint and knowledge. Do not waver in this gaze, or worry, for these are the stones that have been placed at your feet to step upon—to climb, to conquer without fear, without hesitation.

You are ready, dear love. We have been waiting for you to see what we have seen all along.

“After I channeled this message, I had to look up what 'patriarchal simplicity in viewpoint and knowledge' meant. I could come up with a few thoughts of my own, but I do love when I am presented with phrases I would never use. For me, it’s a sign that my messages are truly coming from somewhere other than my own thoughts, a beautiful addition; lovely, uplifting and wise.”

If you are wondering yourself what 'patriarchal simplicity in viewpoint and knowledge' means, it was meant to convey a straightforward, uncomplicated perspective—a clear and simple way of looking at things that may be associated with societal structures in place.