I got you. It's okay to ask for help and support.

In the past, I’ve always been quite stubborn when it comes to asking for help or support, but over time, that has shifted, and I’ve been able to realize that it’s not only okay to ask for help or support but it’s actually healthier for me. So often, we look at leaning on another as a sign of weakness, that we aren’t being independent, or we don’t want to feel like a burden, etc., when in reality, asking for support can lead to a better state of mental health and can help forge more meaningful and lasting connections with others.

But how do we know who is best for our overall well-being and ‘the right people? You know I’m going to say first and foremost, trust your intuition. Ask yourself, do I feel comfortable, understood, and supported by this person? Seek others who can empathize, come from a place of non-judgment, communicate effectively and respectfully. I am a huge advocate for professional guidance, therapy, and coaching mentors in addition to seeking support from friendships that have your best interest at heart.

So, when it comes to asking for support or help, don’t look at it as giving up or your last resort, see it as an incredible strength within that says, ‘I am actually refusing to give up, and I’m worth it.’

A good negotiator

I’m a very good negotiator in my head when it comes to making excuses for why I’m not doing something or feeling a certain way about myself. And, as much as I could and should be kinder to myself, I also feel like sometimes a little tough love can go a long way. Motivational speaker; Mel Robbins often quotes, “No one is coming to save you.” Well, that’s a large dose of OUCH. But, damn, it’s true. Taking responsibility for our present life and future life, changing the way we think, and shifting the feels to rid of negative thinking... it takes work!

But if there is one thing I’ve learned along the way, it’s in breaking things down into doable steps, celebrating every little win along the way, and sharing my victories with those who lift me and support me. So, remember, recognizing and changing your thought patterns, creating action is a process. It’s a journey that requires practice, and where practicing it is key.

12.12 | Stepping stones of self love: A Channeled Message from spirit

On this loveliest of new moons, you see the world. 

On this day, a breakthrough occurs within you. This is not to say that what has come forward is unrecognizable, but ‘familiar’ is a better word. You see the pieces within you that you have been longing to see—an awakening and beckoning for something more, not externally like a desire for things or relationships, but of oneself.

You are aware of your surroundings with a new set of eyes—eyes that gaze upon the self, nurturing a deeper love and understanding of who you are and will be. There is freshness, renewal, doves in flight, and patriarchal simplicity in viewpoint and knowledge. Do not waver in this gaze, or worry, for these are the stones that have been placed at your feet to step upon—to climb, to conquer without fear, without hesitation.

You are ready, dear love. We have been waiting for you to see what we have seen all along.

“After I channeled this message, I had to look up what 'patriarchal simplicity in viewpoint and knowledge' meant. I could come up with a few thoughts of my own, but I do love when I am presented with phrases I would never use. For me, it’s a sign that my messages are truly coming from somewhere other than my own thoughts, a beautiful addition; lovely, uplifting and wise.”

If you are wondering yourself what 'patriarchal simplicity in viewpoint and knowledge' means, it was meant to convey a straightforward, uncomplicated perspective—a clear and simple way of looking at things that may be associated with societal structures in place.

Morning Walk

The air was warm, carrying the perfumes of wild flowers and the scent of damp soil from last night's rain. They filled my being, serving as a reminder of my existence in this very moment of time and space. I stood there on the sidewalk, with not a person in sight, eyes closed, simply absorbing the energy that surrounded me. I could feel it swirling around, permeating my skin and filling the pores with a deep sense of gratitude and reverence—a tribute to who I am and my presence in this exquisite moment.

Beneath the Smile

A tiny blue jay flew upon my window ledge as I stood and watched the rain beginning to fall. I noticed pieces of straw in its claws. This little blue jay was looking for a safe place to build a nest. "Was my ledge of window to be her safe haven to build a nest?" I thought to myself, getting excited.

Days passed, and she never came back. My little ledge was but a place to rest in the rain. I loved knowing that, but I couldn't help but feel saddened too. It made me wonder why I was feeling what I was feeling. One could say I am not enjoying the moment, the experience of this little bird landing on my windowsill to pause from the rain. But it's within these moments that sometimes help bring awareness to the parts of ourselves needing a little extra love and attention, and often healing.

In that moment, I realized that I had been longing for a connection, for a deeper sense of belonging and safety, which is intrinsic to our human experience. It has been true for me. As someone who has moved to a new city where time has seemed to have stopped and speed up all at once, divorced, and become an empty nester, I have come to understand that loneliness is not merely the absence of company, but rather the absence of feeling truly seen and understood, as well as the desire to love and be loved.

It is in those moments, like the little blue jay, that we wish for someone to find solace and choose to build their nest near us, to make us their safe haven, feeling safe ourselves, that we glimpse at the impact we can have on each other's lives, speaking in metaphors here. We wish to create a space of mutual trust and acceptance, where we can find refuge and nurture our dreams together. I believe it is one of the most rewarding and fulfilling roles we can embrace on our spiritual journey.

Just as the little bird's absence revealed the depths of my longing, it also reminded me of the immense joy and purpose that come from being a source of warmth and security for others. It also reminded me that combating loneliness and fostering deep and meaningful connections takes time and effort and that it's important to be patient and kind to ourselves in the process.