Stop Rubbernecking the Roadblocks

I was on the phone with a close friend the other night, a fellow intuitive, and I swear our spirit guides love to pop into our conversations, adding tidbits of wisdom to help guide us through life’s challenges. It’s quite wild how synchronized it all can be, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m forever thankful for those nuggets of “aha” moments that appear at just the right time. And, this was so powerful, I knew I had to share it because it speaks to something many of us face on our spiritual journey.

My friend and I were talking about how we often create elaborate stories in our minds—what we think the other person might be feeling, or scenarios that, 99.9% of the time, aren’t even real. Our thoughts take us to some dark places, especially when it comes to our self-worth, confidence, and ability to see what truly matters. It’s like the old saying, “What other people think of you is none of your business.” Right in the middle of this conversation, my friend’s spirit guide jumped in with a piece of advice that made me laugh and feel enlightened all at once: “Stop rubbernecking the roadblocks.”

At first, I nearly interrupted my friend mid-sentence to share what their spirit guide had just shouted to me clairaudiently, but I paused to let the words sink in. What a profound statement: Stop rubbernecking the roadblocks.

Oh my gosh… Have we not all been here? We’re driving along in life when we suddenly hit a standstill. Something blocks our path, and instead of moving forward or finding a solution, we get stuck staring at the roadblock. We analyze it from every angle, make up stories in our minds about why it’s there, how it’s stopping us, and how long we’ll be stuck. The truth is, in those moments when we feel paused or unable to move forward, we have two choices:

1. Worry about the obstacle. Let your thoughts spiral into worst-case scenarios and overanalyze every detail, leaving you stuck in indecision.

2. Be present and choose your next step. Acknowledge that sometimes roadblocks happen, but they don’t define your journey. Take a reroute if needed, trust in the timing, and own the decisions that will lead you to what’s best for your highest good.

The more I sat with it, I realized that this spiritual message isn’t just about the literal roadblocks we face—it’s about those moments when life seems to throw up obstacles, and instead of moving through them, we linger. We obsess over the problem instead of looking within ourselves for the guidance we need. The lesson here—stop dwelling on what’s holding you back and, instead, shift your focus to how you can move forward with intention and trust.

Our thoughts can create barriers that are far more limiting than any actual obstacle. When we allow ourselves to get caught up in negative self-talk, worries, or the need to control every detail, we forget that divine timing and our own intuition are powerful allies. Roadblocks are just pauses along the journey, offering us the space to reflect, adjust, and grow. They aren’t the end of the road.

In the end, “stop rubbernecking the roadblocks” is to me about shifting your focus from what’s holding you back to what you can do to move forward. Life will always have its challenges, but how we respond to those challenges defines our growth. The next time you feel stuck, take a breath, trust your intuition, and remember that even a detour can lead to incredible opportunities. You are not defined by the roadblocks you face, but by how you choose to navigate them.

They're just words. Step into your power.

Have you ever felt thrown off by just a few words someone said, unable to shake off their impact? It’s incredible, isn’t it, how much power words have over us? When you really think about it, it seems almost absurd that mere words have the ability to knock us down. Yesterday, I found myself caught up in the words “body frame” in the context of someone judging another by how they looked and struck a chord within me, triggering a boatload of emotions, mixed in with my own bucket of insecurities. But, it’s funny how much significance we attach to words, isn’t it?

In moments like this, it’s a great reminder to first and foremost remember that those words belong to someone else; they don’t define you. Take a moment to pause, to breathe, and try not to get caught up in someone else’s narrative. Tune into your feelings and reclaim your power. Step back into your own light and shine brightly, knowing that your worth is beyond any words spoken. Period.

A good negotiator

I’m a very good negotiator in my head when it comes to making excuses for why I’m not doing something or feeling a certain way about myself. And, as much as I could and should be kinder to myself, I also feel like sometimes a little tough love can go a long way. Motivational speaker; Mel Robbins often quotes, “No one is coming to save you.” Well, that’s a large dose of OUCH. But, damn, it’s true. Taking responsibility for our present life and future life, changing the way we think, and shifting the feels to rid of negative thinking... it takes work!

But if there is one thing I’ve learned along the way, it’s in breaking things down into doable steps, celebrating every little win along the way, and sharing my victories with those who lift me and support me. So, remember, recognizing and changing your thought patterns, creating action is a process. It’s a journey that requires practice, and where practicing it is key.

Morning Walk

The air was warm, carrying the perfumes of wild flowers and the scent of damp soil from last night's rain. They filled my being, serving as a reminder of my existence in this very moment of time and space. I stood there on the sidewalk, with not a person in sight, eyes closed, simply absorbing the energy that surrounded me. I could feel it swirling around, permeating my skin and filling the pores with a deep sense of gratitude and reverence—a tribute to who I am and my presence in this exquisite moment.