Arcturian Wisdom: If We Gave You a Hammer, What Would You Build?

Last week, I had one of those Spiritual Life Coaching sessions that stays in your mind long after it’s over. My client, someone beautifully open to exploring the supernatural, came to the session with a deep desire to connect with higher light beings. They had experienced glimpses of these presences in their life, and their curiosity was as expansive as the universe they longed to understand—a sentiment I deeply resonated with, given my own journey.

Going into the session, I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect (because, let’s be real, the spiritual world loves to surprise us). But as a psychic medium and spiritual life coach, I’ve learned to roll with the unexpected. And let me tell you, this session? It absolutely blew me away.

When my client and I began to start the session, I felt this incredible, high-vibrational energy enter the space behind me. It was so strong that my body reacted right away—my posture shifted, and I felt this deep warmth and strength wash over me. It’s hard to put into words, but it was like I was blending with something so powerful yet so gentle at the same time. I didn’t know exactly what or who it was at first, but as the session unfolded, they revealed themselves as an Arcturian.

I’ll admit, I don’t dive too deeply into researching Arcturians, Pleiadians, or other high-vibrational beings. I know of them, the names, but prefer to keep my channeling as clear and uninfluenced as possible. (Maybe that’s a little naïve, but I like to think it helps keep my human ego out of the way. And to be honest, I kind of love the surprise and beauty of it when it happens.)

What struck me most wasn’t just the presence of this incredible light being (which was, let’s be honest, pretty amazing)—it was the message they brought. They deeply understood my client’s longing to connect, their curiosity about the secrets of the universe, and the excitement they felt about communicating on the level they were seeking. But then they completely flipped the script with a question so simple and profound, it almost broke my link in pure awe:

“Beyond the experience and the entertainment value of connecting with us, what would you do with the wisdom and knowledge we share? Think of it this way: if we gave you a hammer, what would you build?”

Oof, that question hit me right in the heart. It wasn’t meant to diminish my client’s curiosity or passion; instead, it was a gentle nudge toward reflection. Spiritual connections beyond the veil, aren’t just about the wow factor. They’re about the why.

The light being explained it perfectly. If they handed over a tool—a hammer, a piece of knowledge, or a moment of connection—it was up to us to decide how to use it. Are we building something meaningful? Are we growing? Are we contributing to the greater good?

One of the most incredible takeaways from this session was the reminder that relationships—whether with people, spirits, or higher beings—require both investment and surrender. It’s not enough to simply want a connection; we need to approach it with humility and authenticity. Even though my client was open to both the investment and the surrender, the questions posed by the light being required real contemplation.

As more questions unfolded, this light being made it abundantly clear in the most loving way: they don’t really need us to connect with them. They choose to. And in that choice, they’re seeking a relationship built on more than what we often can recognize within ourselves.

After the session, I couldn’t stop thinking about that question in relation to my own life of service: If we gave you a hammer, what would you build?

It really is such a simple yet hit you over the head reminder to reflect on how we use the tools we’re given. Spiritual journeys are full of gifts—insights, connections, and moments of clarity. But they’re only as valuable as what we choose to do with them.

It makes you ask yourself: What are you building? Maybe it’s a stronger sense of self, a deeper connection to others, or even a platform to share your truth. Whatever it is, it must come from a place of love, intention, and service—and this is exactly where my client’s heart was, wanting to build something meaningful from that very space.

I’ll be honest—this session was as much a learning moment for me as it was for my client. It reminded me why I love this work so much. Every reading, every connection, every session pushes me to grow, to stretch my understanding, and to serve in new ways.

At the end of the day, that’s what it’s all about. Spiritual growth isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about asking the questions, staying open, and using what we’ve been given to make a difference.

A Final Thought: If you were given a hammer, what would you build? Take a moment to sit with that question. Let it guide you toward your own “why.” And remember, the tools we’re handed are only the beginning—it’s what we create with them that truly matters.

When Change disrupts your comfort zone

There’s one thing we’ll always find on our journey, no matter how much we try to avoid it, is change. Some changes we can control and manage, and others…not so much.

For example—I love rearranging the furniture in my living room or bedroom every now and then. There are really only two ways to move things around because of the space and scale of my furniture, but that tiny shift feels new. It’s energizing. It shifts my mindset.

Then there are the weekends when I decide to try a new hiking trail or take some photos at a spot I’ve never been to before. That little invitation to explore something different is so good for the soul, isn’t it?

But not all changes come wrapped in a bow of excitement. Sometimes, life throws in an unexpected curveball: an illness, a career hurdle, financial stress, family dynamics, relationships, etc... And suddenly, it’s not about rearranging furniture—it’s about rearranging your heart, your mind, and your ability to adapt.

For me, it’s so easy to get caught up in the imbalance of it all. I’ll admit, I’ve gotten better over the years—age does bring wisdom—but patience still isn’t exactly my strong suit. When life feels overwhelming, I often find myself wanting to fix things, to make sense of what feels messy.

But here’s the lesson I’ve learned—one I’m still learning: not every change is meant to be fixed or figured out. Some changes are about letting go. About hitting the pause button, taking a deep breath, and sitting with whatever is happening, even if it feels uncomfortable.

I feel like a broken record if I’ve mentioned this before, but if I’m being honest, it’s advice that often sits on my shoulder, whispering in my ear: letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It means creating space for peace, even when life feels chaotic. It’s about trusting that every shift, even the hard ones, carries something valuable. Sometimes it’s a lesson in resilience; other times, it’s a reminder that we’re stronger than we think.

I’ve learned that change—whether it’s something as simple as moving a couch or as profound as facing the unknown—has the power to transform us. I once listened to a podcast where actor Matthew McConaughey shared an analogy about the colors of a stoplight. He explained that if life were all green lights, with no hardships, no challenges, no “change,” or introspection, then what would it all be for? We need the yellows and reds, too.

I might be veering off topic a bit, but his analogy feels so relevant to change. Those pauses and stops—those moments of uncertainty or struggle—are what help us evolve. It’s where growth happens. It’s where we learn to loosen our grip on the things we can’t control and start embracing what is.

So, here’s a gentle nudge for us: when change knocks, let’s answer with curiosity. Let’s ask ourselves, “What can this teach us? How can this moment serve our growth?” Even when it feels uncomfortable, even when we don’t have all the answers.

Every change, whether small or life-altering, is shaping us. It’s helping us align with our highest selves, one step at a time. And in those moments when it feels overwhelming, let’s remind ourselves that we’re not alone. My favorite go-to reminder? You’ve got this.

The cost of fitting in & breaking old cycles

This morning, I found myself reflecting on a conversation I had the other day, where I tried to fit in by venting about a frustrating situation. In the moment, it felt easier to just let it all out—something we all do from time to time. But afterward, I couldn’t shake how I felt about my participation in the conversation. I didn’t like it. This wasn’t who I am.

While I understand that I’m human and deserving of grace, I also realized something profound: solutions often live in the world of acceptance. They emerge when we hit that internal pause button, especially when we find ourselves caught up in throwing more wood on the fire, instead of being the positive force of self-restraint, even in the smallest of moments.

Accepting a situation for what it is doesn’t mean giving up or ignoring your feelings. It means recognizing that some things are beyond our control and choosing how we respond to them. When we do that, we shift from reacting to reflecting, creating space for clarity and growth.

This moment reminded me that my self-awareness is truly a gift. Even when we stumble, each realization brings us closer to our best selves, and I’m so grateful for it. Growth doesn’t mean perfection—it means choosing to learn and move forward, one step at a time.

If I met my past self.

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to sit down with your past self? To look into those eyes—perhaps a bit more guarded, maybe a touch more vulnerable—and just listen? This morning, I woke up thinking about it and asked myself how I would feel if I had that opportunity. Would I embrace her rough-around-the-edges moments, those questionable choices, and the hard-won victories she fought so fiercely for? How would I honor her today?

When I think about it, I’d want to thank her—and if you know me, you know I’m all about the hugs, and she’d be getting a lot of them. I’d thank her for the strength she called on when life didn’t make sense, for the lessons she endured, and for the resilience she built along the way. Every decision she made—each one a stepping stone that brought her closer to this version of me—has shaped who I am today. Even those chapters I’d love to rewrite or forget became part of a bigger story, one that’s still unfolding.

Every chapter we leave behind has a purpose, no matter how messy or uncertain it felt in the moment. It’s easy to get lost in the “what-ifs” and “if-onlys,” but if we linger there, we risk missing the beauty of the present and the potential of the future. So, rather than striving for perfection in our past or our present, what if we focused on creating as much inner peace as we can? Peace doesn’t mean perfection; it means allowing yourself to fully embrace every part of your journey, knowing each moment is helping you refine who you want to be moving forward.

Imagine looking back with empathy, not regret. To appreciate every struggle, every setback, as an essential ingredient in the life you’re creating now. From this lens, our biggest regrets can be transformed into guideposts, showing us what we truly value and who we aspire to become. In this way, our past selves become honored teachers, allowing us to grow without clinging to old mistakes or limiting definitions of who we are.

Our past selves remind us that growth isn’t about erasing or perfecting, but about fully embracing who we are today. Every new choice, every shift in perspective, is an opportunity to build a life rooted in authenticity and peace.

So as we reflect on our past, here’s a little love note to remind us to honor it. Appreciate each part for its role in shaping who you are. Release what no longer serves you, and step into the present with gratitude for how far you’ve come. In this way, you create space for new beginnings and a beautifully, empowered future. Embrace the journey—your journey. Every step brings you closer to your truest self.

Building the Bridge: How Meditation Transformed My Life and Opened My Spirit

Life can definitely feel like a whirlwind sometimes, with thoughts racing nonstop and emotions pulling us in every direction. For years, my mind was like that—constantly jumping from one thing to the next. I was stuck in “monkey mind” mode, always overthinking, restless, and overwhelmed by anxiety, heart palpitations, and panic attacks. Sitting still felt like an impossible task, and peace seemed way out of reach.

Then, I found meditation.

At first, I turned to it because I needed some calm in my life. And sure enough, it did that—helped quiet the noise, soothed my anxiety, and made me feel more grounded. But what I didn’t expect was how meditation would do so much more than just calm my mind—it became a doorway to something bigger, something I hadn’t even realized I was searching for.

Meditation opened me up to a whole new level of awareness. Little by little, it helped me connect to something beyond the everyday world. I started sensing the presence of departed loved ones, angels, ascended masters, and beings of light. And while this sounds like something out of a storybook, it became my reality. Meditation had become the bridge that allowed me to step into the spirit world.

But it didn’t happen overnight. It’s taken me 13 years of practice—and trust me, I haven’t been perfect at it every day. Some days I showed up, and some days I didn’t. But I kept coming back. And from the moment I felt the presence of my father in a meditation class, not long after he had passed away, I knew I was on a journey I couldn’t turn away from.

I was hooked. After that first connection, my mornings and evenings became dedicated to meditation. Sometimes I’d sit for nearly an hour, my mind so still that it felt like time itself had stopped. Of course, eventually, my legs would fall asleep, and I’d have to come back down to earth! But even on the days when I could only squeeze in five minutes, the effects were just as powerful.

Meditation taught me that it’s not about how long you sit—it’s about showing up. It’s about letting go of expectations and just being present with yourself, even for a few moments.

For me, meditation became more than just a way to calm my anxiety. It became a path to discovering a deeper sense of purpose, a way to connect with the universe, and to tap into a well of love and guidance I never knew existed.

If you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or just curious about what else might be out there, I encourage you to give meditation a try. It doesn’t have to be perfect or long. Just start with a few minutes and see where it takes you.

You might just find that, like me, it becomes the bridge that connects you to something greater—a space where your mind quiets, your heart opens, and your spirit expands. And in that space, you’ll find the peace, clarity, and connection you’ve been searching for all along.