Stop Rubbernecking the Roadblocks

I was on the phone with a close friend the other night, a fellow intuitive, and I swear our spirit guides love to pop into our conversations, adding tidbits of wisdom to help guide us through life’s challenges. It’s quite wild how synchronized it all can be, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m forever thankful for those nuggets of “aha” moments that appear at just the right time. And, this was so powerful, I knew I had to share it because it speaks to something many of us face on our spiritual journey.

My friend and I were talking about how we often create elaborate stories in our minds—what we think the other person might be feeling, or scenarios that, 99.9% of the time, aren’t even real. Our thoughts take us to some dark places, especially when it comes to our self-worth, confidence, and ability to see what truly matters. It’s like the old saying, “What other people think of you is none of your business.” Right in the middle of this conversation, my friend’s spirit guide jumped in with a piece of advice that made me laugh and feel enlightened all at once: “Stop rubbernecking the roadblocks.”

At first, I nearly interrupted my friend mid-sentence to share what their spirit guide had just shouted to me clairaudiently, but I paused to let the words sink in. What a profound statement: Stop rubbernecking the roadblocks.

Oh my gosh… Have we not all been here? We’re driving along in life when we suddenly hit a standstill. Something blocks our path, and instead of moving forward or finding a solution, we get stuck staring at the roadblock. We analyze it from every angle, make up stories in our minds about why it’s there, how it’s stopping us, and how long we’ll be stuck. The truth is, in those moments when we feel paused or unable to move forward, we have two choices:

1. Worry about the obstacle. Let your thoughts spiral into worst-case scenarios and overanalyze every detail, leaving you stuck in indecision.

2. Be present and choose your next step. Acknowledge that sometimes roadblocks happen, but they don’t define your journey. Take a reroute if needed, trust in the timing, and own the decisions that will lead you to what’s best for your highest good.

The more I sat with it, I realized that this spiritual message isn’t just about the literal roadblocks we face—it’s about those moments when life seems to throw up obstacles, and instead of moving through them, we linger. We obsess over the problem instead of looking within ourselves for the guidance we need. The lesson here—stop dwelling on what’s holding you back and, instead, shift your focus to how you can move forward with intention and trust.

Our thoughts can create barriers that are far more limiting than any actual obstacle. When we allow ourselves to get caught up in negative self-talk, worries, or the need to control every detail, we forget that divine timing and our own intuition are powerful allies. Roadblocks are just pauses along the journey, offering us the space to reflect, adjust, and grow. They aren’t the end of the road.

In the end, “stop rubbernecking the roadblocks” is to me about shifting your focus from what’s holding you back to what you can do to move forward. Life will always have its challenges, but how we respond to those challenges defines our growth. The next time you feel stuck, take a breath, trust your intuition, and remember that even a detour can lead to incredible opportunities. You are not defined by the roadblocks you face, but by how you choose to navigate them.

Facing the Unknown: Why I choose not to Predict when Someones going to die.

Years ago, a very wise teacher and brilliant medium once said, “When it comes to sharing in readings our time of death, I’m not interested in playing God.” Her words have forever shaped my approach and core beliefs as I continue my journey as a psychic and medium, especially when confronted with questions about one’s mortality in this lifetime.

I decided to write this blog because lately, I’ve been getting a lot of clients asking the age-old question: When will I die? When will a parent, spouse, or loved one die? These are questions that I think all of us ask ourselves as humans, and something I personally feared as well before awakening to my abilities as a medium—how long do I have?

When a client asks me these questions, I approach them with great care and empathy, especially when someone’s parent or loved one has been suffering from a long-term illness and they want to know how much more time they have with them. It’s only natural to seek peace of mind and, for some, a moment of relief from the daily stress of caring for someone or worrying about their own fate. But the question arises: how does knowing if you have 2 days, weeks, or 30 years left to live truly benefit you?

When these types of readings present themselves, a consistent message comes through from the spirit world every time: Let go of what you cannot control and manage what you can, as best as you can. It is not our job as humans to worry about our fate or the fate of others but to live the best life we can in the present moment. I’m aware that this is easier said than done, as life can be filled with suffering, pain, and worry.

Even as someone who has been gifted with the ability to see a person’s timeline from past to future, the messages are clear: the energy I am seeing is the current energy in the present moment. While a reading can bring peace of mind, beautiful hope, and affirming evidence, it’s important to remember that our futures are fluid and can change or shift. Our souls are infinite, but our experiences in this lifetime have a time limit—some short, some long—but we all share the same fate. Whatever time you have, LIVE IT. Live it with great love, with joy, with kindness, and compassion for yourself and for others. Doing the best that you can is all that you can do. Surround yourself with positive people who support you, lean on one another when times get tough, and give yourself grace on days when your best is at the bare minimum. The message here is to be present—you can’t change the past, and you can’t control the future. All we have is today.

I’ll end with this: So, why go to a psychic if that’s what you want to know? Isn’t that what psychics do? Not every psychic medium is right for everyone. In my personal connection with the spirit world, my role is to help you on your journey today. I am a vessel and translator from the spirit world, communicating messages to the best of my abilities. Everyone’s journey is unique. My intentions and relationship with the spirit world are always focused on your highest good, offering solutions and guidance. While I can often sense and share when messages from the spirit world indicate that things are easing up or need more time to work through, predicting when someone’s life is meant to end is not something you’ll ever hear me express. If that’s what you seek, I wouldn’t be the right fit.

Poem: True North

Patient and calm, I dwell in the embrace of wonder and awe, my dreams surfing and gliding through the ocean of my thoughts. No shadow of dusk can dim my vision, for everything I desire shines brightly as I gaze beyond the windowpane. Yet, here I wait, the hands of time resting gently on my shoulders, anchoring me in this moment. It’s not a cage but an infinite horizon, where my feet are free to wander, discover, and experience each flicker of light anew. Anchored yet liberated, I’m a soul adrift with no map to guide me, no roads to confine me—only a compass gently cradled in my hand, guided by my inner north star.

Message from spirit | You’re the winning ticket.

You don’t need a wheel of fortune or a four-leaf clover to feel lucky. You are here, in this moment, experiencing the wonders of what is and what’s yet to come—a winning lottery ticket in itself. Do not overlook the power you have to create and fulfill your desires by wondering if they could be possible. Trust in knowing that they are.

Message from spirit | There is no need for more.

Your travels on this journey are your own, beautiful and winding. What lies beyond the trees does not matter; where would be the magic and mystery in knowing? Live in the pages of this very moment, redefining your happily ever after by falling in love simply, gently, by being of breath, of the senses. Take it all in. There is no need for more.