What to Know Before Getting a Psychic Reading: A Psychic Medium’s Guide to Finding the Right Fit

Even though I am a psychic medium, I completely understand why the term carries some negativity for a lot of people. Over time, the word psychic has picked up quite a reputation—sometimes for good reason. The truth is, seeking guidance from a psychic medium can be a deeply transformative experience, offering clarity, reassurance, and even healing. But with so many different kinds of psychics out there, each with their own approach, it’s important to find one whose style and ethics align with you.

Not every psychic medium is meant for everyone, myself included. I’ve even referred clients to another medium when I felt they would be a better fit. It’s truly about finding the right connection—one that resonates with your energy and your needs.

A Reading Should Never Feel Fear-Driven

Whether it’s your first reading or you’ve had many before, one thing should always remain true: your reading should never feel intimidating, or fear-driven. You should feel safe, supported, and at ease with the psychic medium you choose. Trust your intuition—if something doesn’t feel right, honor that feeling.

I’ll never forget one of the first readings I ever received. A friend had recommended the psychic medium, which is usually a great way to find someone trustworthy. But what my friend didn’t mention was the sales pitch waiting for me at the end of the session. Although there were a couple of pieces of evidence that came through, I got a bad feeling when the reading suddenly turned into an upsell—offers to “clear energetic blocks” for hundreds of dollars. The integrity of the session instantly felt off. I remember sitting there, feeling uncomfortable, knowing I wasn’t going to hand over a lot of money for something that didn’t feel right. I walked away grateful that I trusted my gut, but it was a lesson I’ll never forget. And if I had to sum up my advice to my close friends after that experience? Run away, and run fast.

Ethical Psychic Mediums Empower, Not Manipulate

A psychic medium should empower you, not scare you or manipulate you into spending more money. They won’t claim you’re cursed, pressure you into unnecessary services, or make you feel like your life will fall apart without their help. Messages from spirit are always rooted in love and guidance. Even when a difficult truth comes up, an ethical medium will deliver it with compassion, helping you navigate your path in a way that feels supportive rather than distressing.

I personally don’t believe in sharing certain types of information, such as predicting death or making absolute claims about relationships (e.g., ‘They’re cheating on you, and you should leave the relationship’)—unless someone is in harm’s way and I feel I can genuinely help. My role is to provide insight in a way that uplifts rather than instills fear. Spirit’s messages are always meant to guide and support, never to create anxiety or dependence.

Red Flags to Watch Out For

One major red flag? A legitimate psychic medium will never send you a direct message on social media claiming to have an urgent message for you. If someone slides into your DMs offering a reading, it’s almost always a scam. A true professional allows clients to come to them when they’re ready—not the other way around.

Another thing to be mindful of is anyone who claims to know exactly what will happen in your future, without any room for change. The future isn’t set in stone, and any ethical psychic medium will tell you that. A great reading offers insight into potential outcomes based on the energy currently surrounding you, but you always have free will. You have choices. And that’s the beauty of it—you get to create your own path.

How I Approach My Readings

I always begin a session by asking spirit to bring forward what you most need to hear. Sometimes, this aligns perfectly with what you’re hoping to receive—but other times, spirit prioritizes insights that serve your highest good, even if they differ from your expectations. More often than not, the guidance you’re seeking will naturally come through. However, if by the halfway point your specific concern hasn’t been addressed, you’re welcome to mention it in a simple, general way—such as ‘I’d love insight on my career.’ This helps set an intention without influencing the message, ensuring the reading aligns with what matters most to you. My role isn’t to gather information but to interpret what spirit shares organically. The best readings happen when you come with an open heart, allowing messages to flow naturally while also honoring your personal intentions.

A psychic medium should respect your boundaries. They will never force information on you, insist you continue a session if you’re uncomfortable, or make you feel pressured to believe something that doesn’t resonate. Your reading should feel like a conversation between friends—one where you feel heard, supported, and never judged.

At the end of the day, the most important thing is to trust yourself. Your intuition will always guide you toward the right people and experiences. An authentic psychic medium will leave you feeling empowered, validated, and at peace—not dependent on them for every decision in your life.

Whether you seek guidance from me or someone else, my hope is that you find the connection and clarity you need in a way that truly serves your highest good.

Copyright 2025 Angelique Declercq. All rights reserved.
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